TOP OF THE MORNING | JUNE 19
Hello wondrous readers!
How was your weekend? All good here, for sure. More tasks accomplished – meaning – things that are on my To Do List – but not necessarily things I roll out of bed for and jump for joy doing.
But, sure feels GREAT when tasks are accomplished! Ha. Even catch myself going around the corner and checking accomplished task(s) out – like 5 or 6 times. Truth. You?
Gathered these 12 nuggets for today – Fun + Food + Fascinating + LOL pieces. Click and Enjoy.
Dear Annie — I’ve never heard of the term “Catfished” before. You? Interesting column for sure.
Thanks for sliding by and hanging out with us for a little bit today. We sure are grateful. And thanks for your thoughts and comments, too.
- Whether or not you’re into the whole Zodiac sign thing — gotta admit it’s kinda fun — and this one is the most fun I’ve ever read. Ready? Zodiac signs as a fish
- Times BRILLIANT design ideas were executed to perfection
- Hello – We can make beef jerky all by ourselves and it’s better than the packaged $$tuff!
- Creamy Cucumber Spread recipe that’s a terrific accessory for any and all summertime easy food that we love and hold in our hands
- Tofu + Mushrooms + Sundried Tomato Sauce – Awe-mazing!
- THIS LOOKS REALLY, REALLY GOOD !! BLT PASTA SALAD
- And a little something sweet to make – original kind of recipe if you ask me!
- Magician Performs Tricks for Shelter Dogs to assist them in getting adopted – Pure Magic!
- Super cool unique architecture designs + concepts – from all over the world! WOW! I couldn’t stop looking
- What a class act – and definitely one of my favorite actors. Had the opportunity to work with him on Olympus Has Fallen. Such a master at his craft. Morgan Freeman …
- 13 traits of People Who Radiate Inner Beauty — How many traits do you have?
- old school – I Love Lucy – Top 20 Classic moments!
BY ANNIE LANE
TACKLING MY CATFISH TRAUMA
When I was 12 or 13 years old, I had a pen pal in a different state. I’ll call him “Casey.” This was long before anyone had ever heard of the term “catfished.” We wrote several long letters every week and sent many photographs and small gifts. At times, we would speak on the phone. This was pre-cellphone, and I would have to save my allowance and telephone from a phone booth.
I knew all about Casey’s parents and siblings, as he did mine. The correspondence went on for about four years. For me, it was a strong case of puppy love. Then Casey wrote that he was very sick with some type of cancer. The information about this illness was all very vague. Within the year, I received a letter from Casey’s alleged brother, who broke the news that Casey had died.
Several years went by, and I happened to travel to Casey’s state. I thought I’d give his brother a phone call that wouldn’t incur long-distance charges. I was dumbfounded to learn to learn that Casey was very much alive and living across the country. Everything I thought I knew about Casey and his family was a lie, including the fact that Casey was a girl and not a boy. I felt betrayed and deflated.
I am now 70 years old, been happily married for 48 years, and learned that “Casey” lives within an hour’s drive of my home. I was able to Google Casey’s contact information. My question is, should I call Casey? I’d like to dissect the pen pal years and ask questions about why she did this. ~ Catfished
Before you decide, think long, hard and honestly about the expectations you have for a confrontation. What are you hoping to get out of it? There’s a scenario where you express to “Casey” the trauma and pain her deception caused, and you get some answers and a heartfelt, long overdue apology in return.
But I want you to be prepared for the other potential outcomes. It’s possible that she’ll deflect her wrongdoing, dig her heels in and you walk away more frustrated and upset as a result — or with nothing at all. Oftentimes, the people who commit to these sorts of charades are lonely and seeking companionship, though obviously in an inappropriate way. Casey may not even fully understand why she did what she did all these decades ago, which leaves you with more questions than answers.
Ultimately, the only person who knows what’s the right choice is you. It may be your chance to finally release the hold this event has had over you and fully heal, but do proceed with caution. A good therapist can also help you to sort out this trauma and process the effects you still feel today.
~ Send your questions for Annie Lane to firstname.lastname@example.org
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